Bullet points update
Seriously, does it even qualify as a blog post if you just use bullet points?? Or could this be the new wave of Mommyblogging? You know, for when all you have to work with is two functioning brain cells?
- So, we just got an infusion of new video content, since Mommy has officially seen Totoro, Toy Story, and Toy Story 2 too many times.
- Mommy is seriously considering quitting her dissertation-in-progress. She hasn’t decided anything yet, and is having angst about the whole thing, but it occurs to her that she would probably be a much happier person and mother if she chucked the whole thing. Stay tuned…
- M. is so stressed right now that he uncharacteristically sniped at someone on the way home from work the other day. Apparently a lot of people piled on to the elevator ahead of him, but cleared some room for him and his scooter. Seeing this, a transit worker shouted out “Usually we let the handicapped people board first,” which apparently rubbed M. the wrong way and he retorted, “It would be nice if the handicapped could speak for themselves.” And a couple of other snarky things. He hates being ’spoken for’ by others, almost as much as he hates people touching him just because he sits at their hand level (or, as he puts it, “Don’t touch the cripple”).
- C. gave me the gift of four hours of sleep yesterday evening, and I blew it all talking with M. until 1 am. Stupid, stupid Mommy.
- He’s giving me the same gift as I type, and what am I doing??
Anyway, there’s probably more but that’s all my brain has right this minute. Oh, except to say that I loved the first episode of Season 2 Torchwood. It’s all about the Spike!Love, of course, but the music was fabulous, the unspoken angst hung heavy in the air, and that last parting shot about John/Spike having found…um, someone, and the look on Jack’s face were priceless.
February 7th, 2008 at 3:25 pm
… I love bullet points personally. Well, maybe not chuck it entirely but ask for an extension? Or ask for a short “leave of absence” - I mean people do get maternity leaves, right? That way, you can forget about it and not feel guilty - for maybe several months - but not entirely regret it for having chucked the entire thing.
Ah… that M. I do try to be ’sensitive’ by not being sensitive, if you know what I mean - I don’t know, maybe I’m just rude but I don’t pretend NOT to see someone’s disability but I don’t get all flustered about it - when LN gets fascinated by someone’s wheelchair (at her doctor’s office or something), I let her talk about it and compliment the person on his/her ‘cool ride’. People usuall give me these looks as though I should pretend the wheelchair doesn’t exist and shush my curious toddler. And one thing I learned from a blind friend is, you always let the person with the disability ask for help, don’t assume they are not capable.
ANYWAY - I know all about the gift of sleep that gets squandered away.
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February 7th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
I’m not really sure how a leave of absence would work in the ABD stage. It’s something I could look into, but I don’t think the underlying problem (lack of time to concentrate on writing) would improve in enough time to make it count, unfortunately (what little I did read about LoA said that they’re usually 6 months or so, which wouldn’t even be time for MM to hit preschool yet…). I think it’s going to come down to whether or not we can get a babysitter to come here a couple of times a week so I can work in peace and know the kids are looked after. It’s just that it’s money that we don’t really have, so I’m not sure how to swing it yet.
M. generally likes talking about his disability; or, rather, he’s very open to it. But *he* says that’s because he was born with the disability and doesn’t have any residual baggage about when he used to be able-bodied, etc., that he says some people who become disabled have. That’s his own take on it. But he does hate it when people presume he can’t do something for himself (unless it’s me expecting him to bus his own dishes, etc.
). He said that a few of the people in the elevator kind of laughed nervously when he said that - it really is difficult knowing how exactly to approach the disabilities of different people with different experiences.
I know you know about lost sleep - I really, really hope that things start looking up soon. Wish you could get out of there (or, better still, get PN the hell out of the house), but until then keep your head above water. We’re all rooting for you.